The point is, we can play the 53 vs the spread or anything else or we can "use the 353" vs the spread or anything else..we have 53 personnel because we figure its our best personnel on the field, and we certainly dont want to be run over.
so, if you were asking me "how would you play the 53 vs the spread" - id respond, for your stuation, man up, go cover 0 and rush 6 most of the time, but not all of the time or screens and draws will hurt you.
take your 53, cover the #1s with the corners, now your fs takes the #2 strong and your best athlete on the weak side, either your will or your weak side defensive end has to take #2 weak.
If you want to go cover 1, then you have to have two adjustors, the better guy strong and the better guy weak...
I dont think theres much mystery to it really. (sorry if that sounds demeaning, its not meant to be, its just that as you said , its a pick your poison) - if you wanted to KEEP THE STACKS, then the ends have to become spurs, if you want to keep your ends, then your olber and or your fs have to become spurs...