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Re: My son is afraid of Tackle football. Help please...
« Reply #30 on: June 09, 2016, 02:18:36 PM »
take him to the park and play with him in pads, a little father son time...if you wanted to you could even have your older boy in some pads and have younger brother knock him down and no impact more a wrestling style tackling. (just make sure older bro knows he is there to loose and fall down, and exaggerate the falling down)no body gets hurt, everybody has fun, every body associates fun with the pads on



or the Koehler training method

TAKE THE PADS OFF AND HAVE OLDER BROTHER KICK HIS ASS!

put the pads on and older brother looses and gets knocked down easily, fun n laughter

TAKE OFF PADS AND SWAT EM WITH NEWSPAPER AND SPRAY WATER IN HIS FACE YELL AT EM

put pads on and give him a treat, talk soft and nicely

TAKE PADS OFF, COVER HIM IN PORK CHOPS AND THROW HIM IN A BAD DOGGIE OBEDIENCE CLASS FOR PIT BULLS

pads on, read him a bed time story

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Re: My son is afraid of Tackle football. Help please...
« Reply #31 on: June 09, 2016, 05:15:30 PM »
I got the impression what he meant was you can make the kid get out onto the field and while they'll be terrible/not care, they won't get hurt.  That may not be true playing football because it is so much more of a physical sport.

Just what I thought when I read that.

You can get fucked up playing baseball. Trust me that dam ball gets you good.

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Re: My son is afraid of Tackle football. Help please...
« Reply #32 on: June 09, 2016, 05:59:43 PM »
You can get fucked up playing baseball. Trust me that dam ball gets you good.

My son just missed 2 weeks worth of games after getting nailed in the head in a baseball game and getting a concussion. Kid would be safer playing spring football.... :)

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Re: My son is afraid of Tackle football. Help please...
« Reply #33 on: June 10, 2016, 09:21:45 AM »
I would start by explaining to him that hitting is part of football and if he wants to play, you will teach him how to but if he doesn't want to play football that is ok.  There shouldn't be a rush to play at 8 yrs old.  There is plenty of time to play tackle football if he wants to later.  If he chooses to play, teach tackling and blocking in a progressive manner building up to full contact when he is ready for it.
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Re: My son is afraid of Tackle football. Help please...
« Reply #34 on: June 10, 2016, 01:42:25 PM »
There shouldn't be a rush to play at 8 yrs old.

This is the only part you said that I'm not sure I agree with.  If you had asked me this last year, I would have agreed, but that was before I had two kids at 8 and 10 choose to start playing baseball. 

This seems to be different now then when I was a kid because you are expected to be at a particular level by 8-10 years old and if you are not, you are an oddity/outcast on the team.  I'm assuming it would be the same if my son just skipped 2 years and started playing tackle at 10. 

Is this not the same in other areas of the country/state?

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Re: My son is afraid of Tackle football. Help please...
« Reply #35 on: June 10, 2016, 01:54:39 PM »
Both of my football playing kids had rough first years at age 8.  It took a while to get used to hitting and getting hit.  By the end of their first season, though, both of them seemed to get it.  Subsequent years did not have the same issue.  I'd not worry about it, but work extra with him to get good tackling/blocking technique if you'd like. 

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Re: My son is afraid of Tackle football. Help please...
« Reply #36 on: June 10, 2016, 02:07:58 PM »
Here's what I'm thinking:  Instead of a camp, I'm thinking of scheduling some private lessons with an instructor using a website called "CoachUp".  Obviously the quality of the instruction would be based on the abilities of the person involved, but this combined with what I can help them work on and practice seems like the best way to go.

How does everyone feel about this?


Cost appears to be about $400 for 5 private lessons of 75 min for each of the two boys.

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Re: My son is afraid of Tackle football. Help please...
« Reply #37 on: June 10, 2016, 02:10:25 PM »
Here's what I'm thinking:  Instead of a camp, I'm thinking of scheduling some private lessons with an instructor using a website called "CoachUp".  Obviously the quality of the instruction would be based on the abilities of the person involved, but this combined with what I can help them work on and practice seems like the best way to go.

How does everyone feel about this?


Cost appears to be about $400 for 5 private lessons of 75 min for each of the two boys.

I'm guessing a lot of people will feel they need to get into the video coaching business.
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Re: My son is afraid of Tackle football. Help please...
« Reply #38 on: June 10, 2016, 02:12:20 PM »
If I misstated I apologize.   This is for personal one on one coaching for each of the boys, not video.  :)

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Re: My son is afraid of Tackle football. Help please...
« Reply #39 on: June 10, 2016, 02:14:16 PM »
If I misstated I apologize.   This is for personal one on one coaching for each of the boys, not video.  :)

Nice going.  Now I have to call my boss and beg for my job back.

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Re: My son is afraid of Tackle football. Help please...
« Reply #40 on: June 10, 2016, 02:57:09 PM »
This is the only part you said that I'm not sure I agree with.  If you had asked me this last year, I would have agreed, but that was before I had two kids at 8 and 10 choose to start playing baseball. 

This seems to be different now then when I was a kid because you are expected to be at a particular level by 8-10 years old and if you are not, you are an oddity/outcast on the team.  I'm assuming it would be the same if my son just skipped 2 years and started playing tackle at 10. 

Is this not the same in other areas of the country/state?

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For me...its easier for a kid to take a big hit and then realize he isnt hurt when he is 8. The longer a kid waits the tougher it becomes to keep up...generally.

When they are 8, post game snackage is very important. When they are say 12, there are kids on the field looking to rip someones face off and THEN eat rice krispy treats  :)

The earlier the better. There really isnt much of an argument for starting them late IMHO.
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Re: My son is afraid of Tackle football. Help please...
« Reply #41 on: June 11, 2016, 06:31:03 PM »
This is the only part you said that I'm not sure I agree with.  If you had asked me this last year, I would have agreed, but that was before I had two kids at 8 and 10 choose to start playing baseball. 

This seems to be different now then when I was a kid because you are expected to be at a particular level by 8-10 years old and if you are not, you are an oddity/outcast on the team.  I'm assuming it would be the same if my son just skipped 2 years and started playing tackle at 10. 

Is this not the same in other areas of the country/state?

I have seen parents who wanted their kids to play football but the kid did not want to.  Those kids usually decide they don't like the sport and don't stick with it.  I have no problem with kids starting at 5 years old if they want to play.  Making a kid play football can cause more harm than good in the long run.  I loved coaching the little guys but I hated dealing with kids who did not want to be there but their parents made them play.   

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Re: My son is afraid of Tackle football. Help please...
« Reply #42 on: June 13, 2016, 08:44:50 AM »
This is the only part you said that I'm not sure I agree with.  If you had asked me this last year, I would have agreed, but that was before I had two kids at 8 and 10 choose to start playing baseball. 

This seems to be different now then when I was a kid because you are expected to be at a particular level by 8-10 years old and if you are not, you are an oddity/outcast on the team.  I'm assuming it would be the same if my son just skipped 2 years and started playing tackle at 10. 

Is this not the same in other areas of the country/state?

Lazarus, I think you're correct to a certain extent.  In our structure, entire teams "move up" together.  They start down at flag, play a year or two there and then get into pads at 8U.  The following year those same kids comprise the 9U team.  Of course there are always going to be kids that quit along the way or decide at 9 or 10 years old to come out and play football for the first time.  I would agree that a kid starting football at age 10 would be a little behind the power-curve.  One thing that might balance this out a little is that the older kids typically pick up on stuff a little quicker than the younger kids.

I pride myself on being a fair coach, assessing kids fairly and putting them into positions that are good for them and good for the team.  Yet, when it comes to kids I already know versus new kids joining a group I've been coaching for 3 years, a newcomer is really going to have to impress me in order to find himself in a skills position.  The fact is, there are some things you simply cannot assess or test for on the practice field.  I've had kids that were amazing during practice, fast, athletic, intelligent...who turn into a ball of tears and snot while refusing to take the field during a scrimmage against another team.

We're currently 42 days out from our first practice.  During that first week, I'll run my assessments just like I always do, I'll sit down with my coaches and tally the numbers and look at who should be where.  I'll mostly be looking at the kids who were almost ready to be offensive or defensive backs last year, to see how much they've matured since last season.  I'll also be looking at the new kids very closely.  I'm not a coach that's going to relegate a newcomer to an MPP slot because he's never played before...at the same time, no matter how good he looks during assessments, I'm likely not giving him a starting position as a QB or RB until I've seen him play in a scrimmage against some uglies or take some reps in a game.

From a dad perspective: I've got 3 sons.  They are now 14, 12 and 7.  My middle-son wanted to play football when he was 7, my oldest son was 9 at the time and didn't want to play.  We forced him to.  The 7 year old had a miserable experience while the 9 year old had a great year.  The 7 year old was actually worse off for playing that season, the 9 year old wasn't.  It's been 5 seasons of football since that first year now.  My oldest son is entering his first year of high school this fall and will likely play.  My 12 year old decided to hang it up - as he doesn't like the contact aspect of the game...and that leaves my youngest boy.

My youngest started flag football when he was 5.  He's accrued 2 years of experience on our flag team which is 11-on-11, blocking on the line, blocking down field with nothing more than mouth-guards.  This season he's eligible to play tackle and I'm actually on the fence about letting him play tackle.  I'm not in a rush to put him in pads and expose him to full contact.  I actually think that another year of playing with no equipment on, would benefit him more than having him play tackle.  I'm a big fan of exposing kids to contact without pads...I think it was Dave Cisar who talked about having kids box or wrestle to get them acclimated to contact.  We see several trends with youth football in terms of teaching tackling technique without pads.

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Re: My son is afraid of Tackle football. Help please...
« Reply #43 on: June 13, 2016, 04:02:33 PM »
Small update on this:  Over the course of the last week I have tried this both ways.  I followed the advice of the youtube video posted earlier in the thread and went over with Titus how to fall.  He told me that was "silly" when we were done because since his favorite hobby is parkour, he said he falls a lot and knows that (so +1 there).  We went over some basic tackling technique as well as I know how to teach it (Which essentially means, put your shoulder in his gut/hips and wrap up his legs) and he seemed ok with that in general.  We setup the tackling dummy and let him get a fun running start and tackle it down both still and with his brother moving it around the yard to make it more interesting.  Lastly, I had him put on the pads and helmet we had and let him try to run the ball past his brother.  I had brother go easy on him as far as how hard he hit him, but still had him try to take Titus down.  Titus went down 4 times and got past twice, but was not injured or hurt at all (other than some silly "hurts" I associate with just learning how to accept contact).  Thanks for the advice here and so far, so good.  :)

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Re: My son is afraid of Tackle football. Help please...
« Reply #44 on: January 17, 2019, 09:25:09 PM »
Go slow, be positive and listen to them. I have 3 boys, my youngest was afraid to play tackle we when talked about him switching from flag at 6 since his brothers were already in tackle. He was afraid of playing with the big kids(7 year olds). After a couple of weeks of feeling him out I asked if he trusted me and believed I wouldn't put him in harm's way. He said he did and if I was his coach he wouldn't be afraid. I said I would and became his head coach. He just wanted reassurance that I would be there for him and not have a stranger asking him to do crazy things, like run into other people. :)