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Offline joshv155

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Highs and lows of being a football parent/coach
« on: June 14, 2018, 06:51:49 PM »
So my son decided after 3 days of spring practice that he no longer wants to play HS football. He would be going into his senior year. He started playing in 4th grade and played through the 3rd game of his sophmore season. He was a stud.I am thinking he has the milkmans DNA  ;D. Was the starting X and MLB. Probably built more for being a TE but the school doesn't use one. He had 9 or 10 TD catches his freshman year. What he lacked in speed he made up for in route running, great hands and being fearless going after the ball. He was a monster on defense. Not very fast, but could read a recognize plays quickly. Hit like a mack truck. After a concussion during a team drill his sophmore season I think he was a little freaked out. Monster of a pulling guard on varsity blocked leading with his helmet and although it didn't look bad he wasn't himself for a couple of weeks. Didn't play junior year. A lot of reasons why that I don't agree with but couldn't force him to play. Countless people were telling him he should be out there, he is a stud......but he has lost his fire. I was hoping he stayed involved for more than just the aspects of being on the field. Teamwork, the day to day struggles and grinding, etc etc.

This season he went out for spring ball. After 3 days he decided he didn't want to play. Still no fire. New HC, that was the old HC but left for 2 years....so he never was under him....that has pushed a lot of players and coaches away from the program with his style. They have very low #'s and their #1 RB transferred out after one year under this HC. Lots more to the story but I was just really excited he was playing again and now really bummed he isn't.

One plus....he told me he wants to help coach my youth team of 8th graders this spring. On one hand I was really sad he wasn't playing at the HS but on the other now I will have him on the sidelines with me and at practice 4-5 times a week. He has a really high football IQ and sees things my coaches and I don't. He is going to help run the offense and coach WR's/LB's.

So now we will get to hang out a ton more and I hope the style in which we do things rubs off on him as he heads into adulthood.
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Re: Highs and lows of being a football parent/coach
« Reply #1 on: June 15, 2018, 12:28:09 AM »
So now we will get to hang out a ton more and I hope the style in which we do things rubs off on him as he heads into adulthood.

I've said before, I don't think injuries are turning kids away from the game.  I believe it's coaches.  Sounds like he's made a gooddecision and you two can really enjoy this together.

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Re: Highs and lows of being a football parent/coach
« Reply #2 on: July 08, 2018, 05:33:04 AM »
I've said before, I don't think injuries are turning kids away from the game.  I believe it's coaches.  Sounds like he's made a gooddecision and you two can really enjoy this together.

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Completely agree. The coaches soured him. Frustrating to see your own kid stop playing because of it. Makes me want to never be the type of coach that pushed him away,

I was disappointed at first but 10 years from now when we look back it will be us spending time together coaching, making memories and not him saying how he didn’t enjoy playing. I’m really looking forward to spending time with him as a fellow coach. I think it’s going to be the best season ever.
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Re: Highs and lows of being a football parent/coach
« Reply #3 on: July 08, 2018, 11:43:12 AM »
Josh,

My son had 3 concussions in three months the summer of his freshman year.  One was in the weight room with the HS.. He locked his knees during instruction and fell and hit his head on a 45 plate.   Next he got hit by a car riding his bike..  hit in the same spot as the first.  Two days later, we are in the head trauma unit hoping he is going to live.

He was told by the neurosurgeon he could play sports if he wanted, the following year.  He told me that he didn't want to play football.  He was afraid of a concussion and dying, but he said you can't get a concussion wrestling lol.  So he wrestled.   His senior year,  he started the wrestling season 11 - 1.  Got another concussion.  That was it, done.  I was disappointed, but glad he is alive and coherent.

A year later,  and he is in college and helping me with my middle school team in football and the varsity wrestling team.  It is actually pretty cool.   I was more disappointed he couldn't wrestle than the football probably.   He had worked so hard and was going to have a breakout season, but it wasn't meant to be.  Now we coach together though.

So my long time assistant and I both have our kids helping us... pretty awesome actually.   

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Re: Highs and lows of being a football parent/coach
« Reply #4 on: July 09, 2018, 10:07:31 AM »
I've said before, I don't think injuries are turning kids away from the game.  I believe it's coaches.
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I stopped playing football my senior year and I was primed for probably my best season yet...I got tired of the politics, the poor coaching, the lack of team.  It was a bunch of individuals running around on the field without direction.  It hurt my heart because I loved the game, I loved the game so much that I still have dreams occasionally  about playing downs of football and it's been a long time since I've played tackle football.
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